50 shades of reality

I would like to start off by pointing out the fact that originally I had no desire whatsoever to read the 50 shades of grey series, however upon plenty of coercion by my dear friends I finally caved to see what the hype was all about. Can’t knock it till you try it right? After pushing through some of the writing and ridiculously in detail sex scenes I finally finished all three books in just under four days. It was actually really hard to get into at first but once the story really started to pick up pace I was hooked. Call me a follower but I hopped on that band wagon right around the second book. It was a difficult thing to put down, and I was engulfed by the powerful message behind the book.

Now, let’s address this whole stigma that some may carry over what they might think the books are about. Bondage, S&M, Dominance….blah blah blah. Yeah we get it; it’s a very sexual book and some of the scenes you probably don’t agree with. I DON’T EVEN AGREE WITH THEM. I think that a lot of that stuff is downright creepy and definitely not in my realm of the bedroom.  However, if people took the time to actually read the book and not just drool over the written pornography or banish the book all together because they don’t agree with the character’s sexual preferences then they would find a whole lot more to the story itself. When I say I had to push through the first book, I was serious. I thought it was ridiculous and it was driving me insane that this girl was letting him treat her that way whether it is in the bedroom or not. What kind of naïve dumb little girl are you???

 Am I right?

Well the real story is about sexual and physical abuse and the pain that some may carry from these events throughout the entirety of their lives. These are wounds that can eventually turn into scars and ruin people’s perceptions on relationships, sexual encounters, and life in general. In case you didn’t read it and are actually reading my blog I will give you a small run down on things, Christian Grey had a less than ideal upbringing with his mother dying as a raging alcoholic who brought home various men that sexually, physically, and emotionally abused him at the young age of five.  He was then adopted into a loving family whom he didn’t know how to love back and he ended up growing up to be this cold and closed off man to the world only exercising his physical needs through dominant sex. This attractive young girl ends up coming into his life and tries to change him from the tortured soul that he is and bring him to life from all of the years’ worth of pain he has bottled up inside.

So it’s basically a love story, and yeah that’s sounds totally lame but it’s actually interesting to see the changes one will make for the person that they love especially for someone who ends up saving you from your misery stricken hole that you reside in. Look I get it, maybe it’s just not something that you want to read or that you really have any interest in knowing about. But I would like to reconcile this terrible name that has been shammed upon this series of remarkable (In my opinion) books that tell a tale similar to mine. You never know what a person is dealing with or what kind of terrible things they went through in their past, you can’t be so quick to judge a book by its cover…Pun intended.  

In closing I would like to share an experience so that you may have some ‘food for thought’ to chew on.  A high school girl who is oddly promiscuous and open about her sex life, everyone calls her a slut and labels her cheap. Little do they know that she was being sexually abused at home for years by a close relative unsure of what the meaning of love, sex, or touching boundaries really were…

You can’t judge people by who you think they are, you actually have to get to know them and read between the lines. You have to scratch through the surface and dig deeper to understand why people are the way that they are and what their reasons are for doing what they do. 

"Every Saint has a past 

and every Sinner has a future. "

-Oscar Wilde